Sitting with Feelings

A client with ADHD who is a director of operations describes conflicts with his leadership team as problems to solve before the conversation about them has finished. He arrives at coaching sessions with action plans built on situations he described for less than two minutes. His manager has given him feedback that he 'doesn't let things land' - that decisions feel rushed and collaboration feels bypassed. He is aware of this pattern intellectually but cannot locate what he is moving away from. The coaching focus is slowing the gap between noticing an emotional state and activating the problem-solving machinery.

Frame this as a sequencing issue, not an emotional avoidance pathology: 'Your problem-solving is excellent. The issue is...