Optional Session Questions
Use optional session questions as an optional, client-owned tool while separating observations, sources, interpretations, assumptions, and unknowns.
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When to Use This Tool
A client is considering Optional Session Questions for one current situation
A client wants to separate observations, interpretations, assumptions, and unknowns
A client wants to preserve choice, consent, privacy, access, culture, power, and context
How to Introduce This Tool Plus
What is directly observed, what remains interpreted or unknown, and which optional question, support, referral, experiment, or no next step feels useful?
Coaching Tool Disclaimer
This tool is designed for coaching contexts, not clinical use. If you or your client is in crisis, contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988) or Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741).
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Tool Classification
Domain
Life Coaching
Type
Worksheet
Phase
Reflection
Review
Details
15 min
Between sessions
Weekly
Topics
Accountability
Mindset
Communication
For the Coaching Practitioner
Plus
Coaching Scenarios
Plus
1 Client choosing an optional use of Optional Session Questions for context 1 ▶
Context
A client brings a situation related to Optional Session Questions. Confirm their words, direct observations, sources, interpretations, assumptions, unknowns, goal, consent, privacy, access needs, culture, power context, and preferred scope.
How to Introduce
Offer the tool as optional. Explain its limited job, distinguish it from nearby tools, and confirm language, access, consent, privacy, and scope.
What to Watch For
Keep observations client-owned. Do not infer diagnosis, cause, hidden motive, fixed trait, score, truth, risk, priority, or outcome from an answer, blank, label, estimate, difficulty, repetition, or another person's reported behavior.
Debrief
Ask what is directly observed, what remains interpreted or unknown, and whether one optional question, support, referral, experiment, or no next step would be useful.
Flags
Not therapy, diagnosis, medical, business, financial, tax, accounting, investment, legal, employment, or relationship advice. Adapt or stop for distress or risk; use qualified or emergency support when appropriate.
2 Client choosing an optional use of Optional Session Questions for context 2 ▶
Context
A client brings a situation related to Optional Session Questions. Confirm their words, direct observations, sources, interpretations, assumptions, unknowns, goal, consent, privacy, access needs, culture, power context, and preferred scope.
How to Introduce
Offer the tool as optional. Explain its limited job, distinguish it from nearby tools, and confirm language, access, consent, privacy, and scope.
What to Watch For
Keep observations client-owned. Do not infer diagnosis, cause, hidden motive, fixed trait, score, truth, risk, priority, or outcome from an answer, blank, label, estimate, difficulty, repetition, or another person's reported behavior.
Debrief
Ask what is directly observed, what remains interpreted or unknown, and whether one optional question, support, referral, experiment, or no next step would be useful.
Flags
Not therapy, diagnosis, medical, business, financial, tax, accounting, investment, legal, employment, or relationship advice. Adapt or stop for distress or risk; use qualified or emergency support when appropriate.
3 Client choosing an optional use of Optional Session Questions for context 3 ▶
Context
A client brings a situation related to Optional Session Questions. Confirm their words, direct observations, sources, interpretations, assumptions, unknowns, goal, consent, privacy, access needs, culture, power context, and preferred scope.
How to Introduce
Offer the tool as optional. Explain its limited job, distinguish it from nearby tools, and confirm language, access, consent, privacy, and scope.
What to Watch For
Keep observations client-owned. Do not infer diagnosis, cause, hidden motive, fixed trait, score, truth, risk, priority, or outcome from an answer, blank, label, estimate, difficulty, repetition, or another person's reported behavior.
Debrief
Ask what is directly observed, what remains interpreted or unknown, and whether one optional question, support, referral, experiment, or no next step would be useful.
Flags
Not therapy, diagnosis, medical, business, financial, tax, accounting, investment, legal, employment, or relationship advice. Adapt or stop for distress or risk; use qualified or emergency support when appropriate.
Tool Flow
Plus
Requires
- None - standalone tool
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Produces
- client-owned observations and sources
- interpretations, assumptions, and unknowns
- an optional question, support, referral, experiment, or no next step
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