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This inventory examines beliefs across six domains - capabilities, worthiness, others, change, conflict, and deserving - would mapping what you actually believe in each area give us a more honest foundation to work from?
A VP of Marketing is described by her team as decisive and confident in brand and creative decisions, and as hesitant and deferential in cross-functional leadership and budget negotiations. She experiences the inconsistency but attributes it to domain expertise — she 'knows' brand and doesn't 'know' finance and operations. Her coach suspects the inconsistency is belief-driven rather than knowledge-driven: her confidence in one domain and her deference in the other are operating on different underlying beliefs about her authority.
Frame this as a mapping exercise before a diagnosis. 'You've described yourself as confident in some settings and hesitant in others. This inventory maps six domains and asks you to rate how strongly you believe in yourself in each. What we're looking for is the pattern — which domains produce strong beliefs and which don't, and whether that maps cleanly to expertise or to something else.' The resistance here is usually the expertise explanation: clients with this pattern often believe the inconsistency is rational. The tool puts that hypothesis to the test.
Look at the correlation between domain knowledge and belief strength. If the pattern aligns cleanly — high belief where she has deep expertise, low belief where she doesn't — the expertise explanation holds. If it doesn't align — if she rates high in domains where she also has knowledge gaps, or low in domains where she has years of experience — something other than expertise is driving the belief. That discrepancy is the coaching opening. Also watch whether her belief ratings match the behavioral descriptions you have from her: a self-reported strong belief in leadership that coexists with consistently deferential behavior is itself a signal.
Compare the highest-rated domain to the lowest-rated one. 'In the domain where you rated yourself highest — what does it feel like to operate there? What's available to you?' Then the same question for the lowest-rated domain: 'What's different about how you show up there?' This makes the belief difference behavioral and felt, not just numerical. Then: 'What would you have to believe about yourself in [low domain] to show up the way you do in [high domain]?'
If the lowest-rated domains consistently involve situations of authority or power — budget negotiations, executive presence, formal leadership — and the lowest ratings are accompanied by themes of not belonging or not being taken seriously, consider whether gender, background, or organizational dynamics are playing a role in the belief formation that is worth naming explicitly. Severity: low to moderate. The inventory is appropriate, but the source of the low beliefs may require more than belief-revision to address.
A director is being considered for a VP role that would triple the scope of his current responsibility. He is enthusiastic but his confidence is uniformly high across all domains when asked about readiness — he reports no significant gaps, which neither his coach nor his sponsor believes to be accurate. The uniform confidence may be a performance for the promotion process or may reflect genuine blind spots. Either way, a realistic domain-by-domain self-assessment is needed before he can prepare for the role.
Use the inventory as a structured calibration tool rather than a readiness assessment. 'Before we plan your transition into the VP role, I want to map where your beliefs about yourself in each domain actually are — not what you'd say in an interview, the real version. A few of these domains will be strong. One or two probably won't be. We need the honest map.' The framing 'one or two probably won't be' is important — it normalizes gaps in advance, which makes honest reporting more likely.
If all six domain ratings are in the top quartile with minimal differentiation between them, the client is either performing or is genuinely unable to access genuine self-assessment. Both are important data. Watch the specific language he uses when rating — clients who are performing tend to give brief, declarative ratings without nuance; clients who are genuinely self-aware tend to rate with qualifications ('strong here except when...', 'developing but making progress in...'). Uniform high ratings without qualification are a signal.
After rating all six domains, ask him to rank them from most developed to least developed. Ranking often surfaces differentiation that the rating scale doesn't — even clients who rate everything high will typically be able to distinguish what is genuinely strong from what is aspirationally strong when forced to rank. Then: 'In the domain you ranked last — what would a 9 or 10 look like in behavior, specifically?'
If the client is consistently unable to identify any development domain across multiple tools and conversations — if every self-assessment produces uniformly high results — and this pattern coexists with feedback from others that suggests more significant gaps, the self-awareness deficit itself may need to be addressed directly. Severity: moderate. Coaching for role preparation is appropriate, but the gap between self-report and external feedback should be named and examined.
A senior manager returned to work after a significant health crisis that required eight months away. The absence affected her financially, professionally, and relationally. She returned to a restructured organization where her role had changed and several of her key relationships had shifted. She describes her confidence as 'reset to zero across the board.' She is meeting expectations in the role but cannot feel that she is. She wants coaching on 'getting her confidence back.'
Frame the inventory as a realistic baseline, not a recovery metric. 'We're going to map where you actually are right now across six domains. Not where you were before you left, not where you want to be — where you are right now. The point is an accurate starting point, because rebuilding works better from a realistic map than from a feeling of 'zero across the board,' which is almost certainly not accurate.' The contrast between the felt sense of zero and the likely reality often produces useful data.
Watch for domains where her rating is higher than her narrative suggests. Clients in recovery often have a global sense of diminishment that doesn't match domain-specific evidence. If she rates the professional domain at a 4 but describes a month where she delivered a complex cross-functional project, the rating and the evidence are in conflict — and that conflict is the coaching material. Also watch whether the ratings she assigns feel like assessments or like predictions of how she'll perform if tested.
After completing the inventory, compare it to an inventory she would have given herself before the health crisis. You don't need a previous completed worksheet — ask her to reconstruct it: 'How would you have rated these six domains 18 months ago?' The comparison makes two things visible: what has been genuinely affected and what has been falsely included in the 'reset to zero' narrative. Often, only two or three domains were genuinely disrupted; the others carried the emotional weight of the reset but not the actual reset.
If the client cannot produce any domain rating above 5 across all six domains, and this is accompanied by persistent language about not returning to her previous capability level, consider whether the recovery narrative has become a fixed belief rather than an accurate assessment of current capacity. Severity: moderate. The inventory work is appropriate, but if the global low-confidence belief is stable and resistant to evidence, a referral to therapeutic support may be beneficial alongside coaching.
I know my values in theory but I'm not sure I'm actually living them
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LifeClient articulates dissatisfaction with their current situation but cannot describe what they actually want





