Values Clarification

Communication & Relationships Tools

Surface what genuinely matters to you through iterative self-inquiry,
then rank your values to make them actionable.

Where This Tool Helps

Values are easy to name and hard to know. Most people can produce a list of values on request - integrity, family, achievement, growth - but struggle to say which ones actually drive their decisions when things get difficult. The gap between stated values and revealed values is one of the most productive territories in coaching.

This tool works in two stages. The first is an iterative inquiry exercise: you answer the same question repeatedly, writing a different response each time. The repetition matters. The early answers are often the safe, socially acceptable ones. The later answers, when the obvious responses have been exhausted, tend to be more revealing.

The second stage is a ranking exercise. Listing values is easy. Ranking them forces you to acknowledge that they sometimes conflict - and that you have been implicitly choosing between them already.

How to Use This Tool

  1. Your coach will provide a question for the first section. Write your answer in the first box, then ask yourself the same question again and write a different answer in the second box. Continue until all eight boxes are filled.
  2. Resist the urge to filter. Write the first thing that comes to mind for each box, even if it contradicts a previous answer.
  3. In the My Personal Values section, review what emerged from the inquiry and list the values that feel most genuine - not the most impressive-sounding ones.
  4. Rank them from most to least important. Pay attention to any ranking that feels uncomfortable - that discomfort usually points to a conflict worth exploring.

Values Clarification

Part 1: Iterative Inquiry
Your coach's question:

Answer it eight times, writing something different each time.

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Part 2: My Personal Values

List the values that matter most to you, then rank them from most important to least important.

My Values Rank

Before Your Next Session

Where in your current work are you making decisions that contradict your top-ranked values? What has that been costing you?

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